Tuesday, July 12, 2011

My Happy Hoop Journey

Like most people the only hoops I had ever known were the super light $3 Wal-Mart hula hoops.  The kind of hoop that I haven't been able to use since I was maybe 7 or 8.  I had an awesome pink one back then with a white pin stripe.  I absolutely loved it until it was ran over by my dads truck.  Then I just moved on to something else that would interest an 8 year.
I didn't give hula hooping another thought until I was about 22 years old. I went to a multi-annual festival outside of Salem, MO called Schwagstock.   I loved the music, the nature, the people, but most of all I loved the first hoopers I had ever seen.   The first night I saw this woman, I still have no idea who she is, spinning a fire hoop.  That got my attention.  I always had an intense attraction to fire, there is even a story that goes around both sides of my family saying that I rarely talked until one day they burned the pasture and I went crazy talking about the fire.  They say I never shut up since! Back to the woman and her beautiful fire hoop, I just was mesmerized.  I sat out side of their circle watching them burn for most the night.  I saw them do fire fans and fire poi, however nothing touched me the way the fire hoop did.  
The next day I saw girls hooping with regular day hoops and they were beautiful.  I loved how graceful some of them were.  Even though I thought it was so cool, I never went and spoke with any of them.  I never had the nerve to say "hi", or "How do you do that?".  I should have asked, " How do I get started?", but I didn't.  Why?  Maybe because I was so insecure about my size.  I am a bigger girl and have been for quite some time.   If I didn't have a friend tell me, "I bet you could do that",  I would have never tried it.  I would have never had the nerve to try it when I felt so ashamed about my body.  I mean these hoopers were beautiful thin and so graceful.  I am short, chunky, and often clumsy. 
Thanks to my friends encouragements I went home and looked up Hula Hooping online.  I found Hooping.org.  On there I found instructions on how to make my first hula hoop.  I went to my mom told her what I wanted to do, and she said she would help.  We rushed to Lowes where I bought all the supplies I needed and rushed home and made my first hula hoop.  At the time there were not very many basic tutorials on Youtube, but I did find the generic "How to Hoop" videos from expertvillage.  I watched them through about the 3rd video and then decided to go out side on the porch and give my beautiful new naked hoop a whirl!
I will never forget it had been raining that day.  The porch was damp and I was barefoot in my capri pajama pants.  My hoop had no tape on it and I couldn't even get the coupler all the way in, so there was a nice gap between the ends.  I still was ready to give it a shot.  I got into one of the two stances I learned from expertvillage, brought the hoop up and set it in motion.  It went beautiful around me once, then twice, then boom it hit the ground.  I remember feeling my hopes just drop.  I was devastated, and it was only my first shot trying.  I spent the rest of the afternoon trying to get my new hoop to spin, but I just couldn't.  So, my lovely mis-shaped naked hoop went back inside for a few months.
It wasn't until that September that I tried to hoop again, and I have only one person to thank for talking me to pick up the hoop, Ziggy.   I went to a DarkStar concert at Grinders - The Crossroads, a popular venue for live outdoor music in Kansas City.  I was there with a good friend, and had a few drinks.  Ziggy was there with a very pretty LED hoop and some basic day hoops.  I was really excited to watch her hoop thinking " Could I ever really do that? ".  Well, my wonderful very straight forward friend went up and started talking to her.  I was nervous, but my friend would never have known that.  Anyways, I ended up telling her how I had tried to hoop and how the hoop just fell, and that I even made my own hoop.  She told me that I needed to keep trying and that the hoop will fall.  Its a lot of hard work, but one day it will just click.  She told me that I could lose weight with my hula hoop and that its worth it to try again.   I think meeting her there was the best thing that has ever happened to me.   I had given up completely until then.  So, in a very unconnected way she is my "Hoop Mama"  on the hooping family tree.  
The next day I rushed home and pulled out my slightly out of shape naked hoop to try again.  I stepped out on the porch and tried for hours and hours to no avail.  I went back inside the house that night, not defeated, but just thinking about how effortless the hoopers I had seen made it look.  I then thought about what there was that felt that effortless for me. The answer was very simple, Horses.  I have been riding horses longer than I can remember.  I grew up on a dude ranch, it was natural to me and still is.  I remember thinking about how I never thought about how the horse was moving I just felt it.  I pictured myself on a horse in a dead run across the pasture and remembering that feeling of ease and freedom.  I thought this is how I am going to learn to hoop.  I am going to picture it being effortless and free.  I will pull on that feeling of natural ease when I am trying to hoop.  I wasn't going to think of how the hoop was moving or where it was going to go, I decided I was just going to feel it.
I went outside early the next morning to give it a shot.   At first it failed just like the day before, but then I cleared my mind and just used that feeling of ease I get when I ride, and boom my hoop stayed up.  From that point on I would stand outside on that porch and hoop every morning before work, and then every evening when I got home.  I learned tricks quick because I was out there everyday.  The most helpful thing I picked up right away was learning to turn in my hoop.  It was October before I really started hooping pretty well for a beginner.  I was in love.  I learned about taping hoops and making hoops.  I learned everything from youtube.  I had no one that I could ask, but I didn't feel I needed anyone.  I was hooping for me and no one else.  It wasn't until the coming spring did I ever attempt to make a hoop video, and try to connect with other hoopers online.   I didn't have the nerve to do that until I had a failed attempt at a festival where two hoopers made fun about there needing to be a weight limit to hoop.  They hadn't even seen me hoop yet, however after that remark I was too embarrassed to hoop at the main stage.   It wasn't until that June at Wakarusa that I learned I could hoop infront of people and enjoy it.  People liked me hooping just as much as one of the pretty girls and I felt comfortable and confident. 
I have to be honest, I never lost a lot of weight with the hula hoop.  I did in the beginning then it stopped. I also never went on a long lasting diet.  I just hooped ate and drank what I always ate and drank.  I do what to make a point though that the Hula Hoop made me healthy.  I could walk up hills I would have been out of breath walking up before.  I could sprint and it wouldn't kill me.  I was able to go on nature hikes and it felt good to be able to move that easy.   The most important thing hula hooping brought me though was confidence.  I am still nervous around new hoopers due to my one bad encounter, however I am not afraid to talk to people.  I am excited to tell everyone about hula hoops even to this day.  I am more comfortable in my own skin.  I feel good, I look good, and I love myself.  I LOVE MYSELF, that is something I never had before I started hula hooping.   What a wonderful gift the universe gave me when I saw that first hooper.  It was what I needed.  I would even say it could have saved my life, because I was a very unhappy depressed person.  Now, I feel  I am a happy one.  Who would have thought a simple circle could do so much?

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